Transitions are a Part of Human Life
From the very beginning we transition from spirit into form, from womb to world, from infant to toddler, from toddler to child, from child to teenager, from teenager to adult, and from life to spirit.
And then, we have the day to day transitions, for example, from sleep to wake, from wake to work, from work to break, from client to client, from work to home, from professional to parent or grandparent, from parent to child, and so on.
In early July, I had the privilege and pleasure to take the “Birth Sequencing Workshop” with Tara Blasco and Mary Jackson, who are continuing to facilitate and honor the legacy Ray Castellino has left for babies and their families. It was no coincidence this workshop was exactly happening at the same time my family experienced the transition of my son, Jay, from kindergarten. This rite of passage moment reminded me of my son’s transition from womb to world.
Being Aware of Transitions
As I reflect, transitions have become one of the more important aspects I choose to bring conscious awareness to in my life, my family’s life, and in the lives of my clients. And when I look back at my years of dance and movement training, it also focused on being connected with the pauses, the silence in the sounds, the pause between in-breath and out-breath, and the transition from one movement through space to another. There is so much to gain and let go of during a transition. And we are constantly, in some form, experiencing layers of transition.
When those transitional layers are brought into conscious awareness and held with love and compassion, the transitions become a pathway towards a healthy way of moving from one thing to the next in life. Acknowledging the transition, being with it as it dissolves and the next step unfolds, creates a completion in the cycle from beginning to end.
When transitions are ignored, overlooked, or sped up, the threads of coherency of the psyche’s narrative are lost and a piece of feeling wholeness is left empty. That emptiness can inhibit a healthy relationship with oneself, and loving oneself can be an almost impossible feeling.
Losing something that brought love and joy, peace and engagement, can often lead to feelings of loss, hopelessness, and loneliness. Left unattended this feeling of loss can create stuckness and insecurity about oneself, the next steps, or may even show up later in life in response to a similar situation. You could say that non-attuned transitions may be traumatic and have long-lasting impacts. And the good news is those challenged transitions can be repaired and healed, especially when we have support and the opportunity to be with transitioning differently.
A Transition in My Family
So there we were, my family and I, in the middle of a transition. As a part of Jay’s last day, we were invited as parents to join the closing celebration, in circle with his teachers and classmates. Together with his teacher, he performed a puppet show about a blue caterpillar turning into a rainbow butterfly. The play touched all our hearts. He even handmade the butterfly from wool himself! And of course, tears of love and joy came to my eyes. Then, Jay was honored with gifts, and we danced, sang, and laughed. We said our “goodbyes,” and some “see you soons”.
Afterwards, we gathered all he had in his cubby, and made our way through his beehive shaped school buildings. The time had finally come for our little bee to leave this hive and move on to the next. As I watched my son taking his final moments, putting on his shoes and looking out the door, he took a natural pause. I noticed him pause, and I felt the emotions come up inside of me. As his mom, I felt what he was feeling. We then walked out the door, we were all alone, together, just the three of us.
In the Moment
A flash of Jay’s birth came into my consciousness and I pulled us aside to sit on a bench just outside the building before the gate, which marked the final transitional moment. I took my son into my arms and said, “Let’s take a moment here, this is a big transition. This is the last time you will go to school here, and the last time you will have Ms. Summer as your teacher.” He burst into tears and felt all the feelings of this moment. As I held Jay, in silence, with his dad’s hand placed on the back of his heart, I started to chant the mantra for emotional healing from the Holy Womb Chakra Process to support him in his transition. I also used a technique for decharging energy he might have taken on. After a few minutes his system settled completely and I said, “When you are ready we can walk through the gate.”
It did not take long before he smiled and said, “I am ready now.” And, off we went, walking through the gate with conscious awareness that he was moving from one phase in his life to another. We slowed the transition down, we felt the emotions, and a coherency was established. It was time to celebrate! We were ready for our family camping trip and new adventures.
Practices to Support Transitions
This seemingly small story of our family illustrates the importance of being aware of these precious moments of transition and how they can appear in the daily life of our families and children. And it also illustrates how the knowledge and practices of De-Charging through the five elements and the Holy Womb Chakra Process can support this process.
Enjoy! And I love hearing from you and your experiences.
Valuable , precious thoughts. Great writing too.
How beautiful! Imagine if every child could have this kind of conscious parenting! Thank you on behalf of the planet for how and who you are and the work you are doing.